A few week’s ago my oldest daughter Elyssia turned 13 and became a teen, but you see Elyssia is not your typical teen. Oh we have the strops and the mood swings, bags of attitude. The grunts and gnarls but despite all this she is not your typical teen.
Elyssia has 3 siblings with varying degrees of autism. This means that she can’t have her friends round as her brothers and sister won’t cope with strangers in the house. She has to do her homework at school or downstairs as she constantly gets bombarded by her siblings as they don’t realise the importance of homework. Or when she is watching a film she has to switch it off so they can watch their programmes to stop them having a meltdown. Elyssia also knows we can’t go out on the spur of the moment, even a simple trip out is planned to precise detail like a military operation.
She has also learnt a lot new skills that could help her in her future career as a teacher. Elyssia has learnt that she has to think out of the box for solutions for our family as the most logical explanation wouldn’t work. She has become a young carer as she helps out with her siblings and pushes them in their wheel chairs when we are out and about. She knows all about sensory issues, paediatrician appointments, speech and language techniques as her siblings were non verbal up to the age of 4-5 years and even developed their own language between them.
Even though Elyssia has all this to contend with at home she is excelling at school . She even helps another pupil who suffers with dyslexia with their maths. I am so proud of the confident young lady she is becoming.