Elyssia

Elyssia’s Not Your Typical Teen

A few week’s ago my oldest daughter Elyssia turned 13 and became a teen, but you see Elyssia is not your typical teen. Oh we have the strops and the mood swings, bags of attitude. The grunts and gnarls but despite all this she is not your typical teen.

Elyssia has 3 siblings with varying degrees of autism. This means that she can’t have her friends round as her brothers and sister won’t cope with strangers in the house. She has to do her homework at school or downstairs as she constantly gets bombarded by her siblings as they don’t realise the importance of homework. Or when she is watching a film she has to switch it off so they can watch their programmes to stop them having a meltdown. Elyssia also knows we can’t go out on the spur of the moment, even a simple trip out is planned to precise detail like a military operation.

She has also learnt a lot new skills that could help her in her future career as a teacher. Elyssia has learnt that she has to think out of the box for solutions for our family as the most logical explanation wouldn’t work. She has become a young carer as she helps out with her siblings and pushes them in their wheel chairs when we are out and about. She knows all about sensory issues, paediatrician appointments, speech and language techniques as her siblings were non verbal up to the age of 4-5 years and even developed their own language between them.

Even though Elyssia has all this to contend with at home she is excelling at school . She even helps another pupil who suffers with dyslexia with their maths. I am so proud of the confident young lady she is becoming.

elyssia 13th birthday

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28 comments on “Elyssia’s Not Your Typical Teen

  1. You should be really proud of her! It can be a lot for us to cope with as parents dealing with all the extra needs of our children so even more so for siblings who are still children themselves. I’m sure she can grow up to really make a difference as a teacher with all the life experience she is gaining!
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    • Thank you Anna

      Yes I think it is very hard for children to cope with such things but they seem to manage don’t they ?

  2. She sounds like such a great young lady :) You must be so very proud of her. It is sometimes tough on our children, to have to help with caring for their siblings who has special needs. I was thinking about it just yesterday when I berated my eldest for not supporting his brother, and for taking advantage of his disadvantaged to win on the WII. We expect so much of them, and sometimes I feel it isn’t fair. But I know that they also learn a lot and gain a lot from it. Such is life I guess.
    Anyway, what am I rambling about??? Your Elyssia sounds wonderful. All the best :) x

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    • Thank you Orli

      Yes I think it is tough at times for a NT to look after siblings with special needs, they give up so much at times don’t they ?

      Also I think it does help them for the future they will hopefully be more considerate and tolerant xx

  3. This is a wonderful post. You must be so very proud. I think it must be very hard sometimes being the eldest of siblings with support needs, but your daughter sounds like she copes brilliantly. I’ve popped over from Love all Blogs.
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    • Thank you for your comment.

      Thank you I am very proud of her. Elyssia does get support from the young carers as well they go into school and make sure that she is coping etc. Thank you for popping over

  4. So lovely to read this. Although it’s not quite the same I can relate to this on behalf of my 13yo son. I have Arthritis and he has grown up knowing sometimes things are difficult and arrangements need to be changed. He is a lovely boy who is aware that people have difficulties. We think he will go into teaching too.
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    • Thank you for your comment.

      Your son sounds an absolute credit to you. It’s amazing how understanding children can be isn’t it. I recently had multiple strokes that have left me unable to walk very far. Kids understand that we can’t go out etc.

  5. All our most valuable lessons are learned through challenge and difficulty. As some are fond of saying, “You can choose your friends but not your family”; by the sounds of things, the very fact you recognise all these ways Elyssia’s having to adapt means she’s not undervalued or ignored and the lessons she’s learning will be a source of pride to her and not resentment. Looks like she’s a beautiful person – outside and in! Feel proud!
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    • Thank you Aisha

      It upsets me that she has to give up so much at times but then I think of all the life skills she is learning as well. I am immensely proud

  6. You have such an amazing young lady there, you must be so proud.

    I always worry how another child will impact our family, and how we will impact another child. Your daughter has shown me that even if it is a tougher journey to take , so much can be learnt. There always feels like a positive can come out of a negative.

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    x
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