How many times have we looked at a child having a tantrum and thinking they are naughty and that the parents have control over the child, we are all guilty of it as some time or other.
Are they naughty ?
We never stopped to think that there could be a reason for their behaviour as a society we are so quick to judge others.
This is one of the reasons I try to raise awareness of autism and the fact that people are different, to help stop this way of thinking. I am a mum to 4 children, my 3 youngest have learning difficulties, global delay development and are autistic, my youngest who is 2 years old is also physically disabled. As a mum to these special children we up against this ignorance day in and day out. People look at the children in their special needs buggies and automatically assume they are too old for a buggy. What they fail to realise is the fact my children would be in a lot of pain if they had to walk long distances. Sometimes my son can’t even walk to the end of the street without being in pain let alone walk a distance.
Then there are the general looks and stares we get when they start screaming. Listen I am sure if they could stop they would. There is nothing more heartbreaking than seeing your child in distress as they can’t make sense of the world around them are having a sensory overload. They are different and the see the world in a completely unique perspective from you and I.
My children have very little social skills and don’t cope in some settings/situations. So for what ever reason whether its a sensory overload, the children have a tantrum ” as society puts it ” . This is no ordinary tantrum a meltdown is very draining on both child and parents. They develop a super strength and it takes all my strength to hold them down at times, to stop them physically hurting themselves as they bang their head on anything possible, or just throw themselves on to the ground.
So why do people who can obviously see that something isn’t right start laughing and giving their so called opinion. Don’t you realise that your comments hurt and upset, many a time I have gone down the road crying because of a nasty comment about the kids or my parenting skills. Autism is NOT from bad parenting nor is it contagious. The children are not naughty.
I do care about my children I will so anything possible for them. My life is controlled by a strict routine, appointments, meetings, Isn’t it time we all took 2 minutes to learn about autism and people that are different. It could make a life time of difference to a parent like me. I don’t have naughty children just very challenging children
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